I wasn't sure if I wanted to do this blog post this morning but finally decided what the hell might as well. Being a woman in your 20s and a woman in your 30s is too different entities. By 30 at least you should know and I say "should" know yourself. Let's first take a look back at my glorious 20s in pictures.
By 19 I knew where I wanted my career to go, when I wanted to get married and when I wanted to have kids. I had it all planned out. What I learned between 20-21 you can plan all you want. Being a Scorpio I love being in control and I had to learn the hard way that I wasn't in control. God was. He knows when, where,what, who and why. At 20 I was in my last year of college about to graduate. Between 20-21 my life took a dramatic turn and I had several life changes that made me grow up faster then I would have liked. But I'm convinced it was all supposed to happen. By 23 I was working as a designer in the fashion industry here in my hometown of NYC.That year I made several life changes along with several life changes. I learned the hard way about family you've known from birth can turn on you in heartbeat, my mother was hospitalized and could of possibly died, my last living grandparent passed away, I moved away from my hometown and started a business. All of that happened in a very short period of time. A lot I know.
Between 24-27 I was feeling the shift from not being home in NYC and living down south among my father's side of the family. Being in a whole new environment. I was loving my life, the people in it and I was growing in myself. In my teens to early 20s I was partier. I had no desire for it. I would rather spend time at home or with my family or quiet time with my boyfriend at the time. I was growing into myself.
By 28-29, I can home to NY more frequently and hung around my old friends. They were doing the same thing when I left. I realized when I said certain things to them they would turn the conversation around and make it all about them. Nothing of substance. So guess what I did, I put everyone to the test and if you didn't pick up the phone to call me. Because I realized I was always to one to reach out to people .BYE.
By 30, I knew the type of people I wanted to have around me with my mother diagnoses of cancer and her going through treatments you realize what's more important. I never had a huge amount of close friends. I've always knew a lot of people but that close friends I could count on my hand. I knew I couldn't depend on them even when I needed them most. God gave me two sister and I'll hold them closer then ever.
Now at 33, I feel like I'm still evolving but into a woman I love. My twenties and living in the south among my father's family has brought my personality at home to the forefront. I'm a chatterbox at home, goofy, loud, feisty, a fire ball. Now everyone sees it. Oh, I forgot opinionated. I used to bite my tongue and keep my mouth closed to not stir the pot because I knew what I was going to say was to ruffle some feathers. Now, it's not that I don't care but I have an opinion too and I want it to be heard. I like what I like and if you don't oh well. It's not about people liking me. You don't like me.Oh well. I don't care what people have to say about me. I don't because people will always talk.About what you do, how you look and what you say. But one thing you will do is give me respect. I don't plan too far into the future. I leave it all in God's hands. Yes I want children, yes I want to get married. When will it happen I have no clue. I don't force things.What my twenties taught me is to be flexible. So in my thirties, I'm flexible to change.I don't fight the current.
Life is about growing and learning about yourself. I can only imagine what my 40s, 50s, and 60s have in store for me. I can't wait for the journey.
What have you learned about being a woman in your 30s?